Talking to a pregnant friend on Sunday I couldn't help but ask questions like "How does it feel when baby moves?" and her husband "Have you felt baby move?" Then like everyone else I gave sneaky unsolicited advice "Everyones going to give advice, it's best to smile and nod."
I'm not pregnant, but I do I have a free loading tumor on my hip that requires me to use crutches to elevate the pressure and avoid a fracture. Like the tummy of a pregnant women these crutches are a gateway of random well-meaning comments, questions and advice.
|Myrtle trying to get an endorsement deal with Hugo® crutches. "Anywhere you want to go!"|
People who maybe don't know what to say have said:
- Life is strange, eh.
- Springs around the corner.
- I read your blog (no eye contact).
People that know me enough to ask, but clearly don't know me well ask:
- How bad was the other guy?
- Basketball injury?
- Soccer injury?
People who know me well enough to know better that I wouldn't be playing sports ask:
- What does it feel like?
- How is Faith really doing?
- When will you know? (Referring to it being benign or malignant.)
- Is there anything I can do for you?
Where the tumor is it feel like a pinch or a tired muscle from exercising. My left leg feels like growing pains, an overall dull ache that varies in intensity. Sometimes my outer thigh falls asleep and there's the pins and needles sensation.
Faith is the best person to ask how she is really doing. Blogging about how she's coping might be a little too fresh and personal. It's her story to share, not mine to blog. That said she is doing excellent all things considered. Myrtle has a fantastic mother and Faith has now taken to babying me too. Faith is working around the clock going the extra mile. Regularly I'm told to stop cleaning, doing the laundry and dishes, making sure I don't over use my leg to avoid a fracture.
I don't know when I'll know everything. Not knowing keeps me up late and wakes me up early.
Is there anything that you can do? Pray, really pray with faith for my tumor to be benign and for a swift recovery. And please share what you do to relax, recommend a good comedy to watch, send a funny joke.